Resolution Solution! 5 steps to… clean up your New Year’s Resolutions

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Have you ever stopped to look at the dictionary definition of- resolution? Let’s take a look!

Resolution (n).

The act of resolving or determining upon an action, course of action, method, procedure, etc.

Now that we have a better picture of the dictionary definition, I think it’s time to put a halt on creating New Year’s resolutions.

We are not problems that need to be resolved. We are solutions! We are smart, worthy and capable of achieving all of our craziest dreams! So, lets first change our mindsets on how to get there.

While 88 percent of people made resolutions just a few years ago, now only 45 percent do, according to a recent study by Stephen Shapiro, author of the new book "Goal Free Living: How to Have the Life You Want Now," and the Opinion Research Corp. of Princeton, N.J.

"The way it seems to work now, setting a New Year's resolution is a recipe for defeat," Shapiro said. "It has come to be one of the nation's most masochistic traditions."

Less Restrictions

Putting too many restrictions to achieve a goal will actually have the reverse effect over time and you will find yourself either falling short on the metrics you set out to hit or you will find yourself depressed and unfulfilled. Take a look at the following resolutions I saw in a “HealthyHabits” Facebook Group…..

-I’m going to be stricter with myself when it comes to working out hard-core

-No more chocolate

-I need to lose 40 pounds

It’s great that these folks meant well by trying to restrict themselves…. But in reality, setting rules for yourself like these can lead to detrimental results.

 There is no fun in setting limitations. Life is meant to be enjoyed.

And I am here to tell you that the research shows you can still have fun while achieving your goals. Enjoy the cake,…. But eat more veggies!

More Permission

You are probably thinking then well how do I improve on something or achieve my goals if I am not being strict with myself? Simple. Think more in terms of abundance.

Let’s revisit the three resolutions above and turn them into goals instead to reflect a permission and an abundance point of view.


Resolution: I’m going to be stricter with myself when it comes to working out hard-core     

Permission: I will find a means of working out in which I enjoy it and I will celebrate the strength my body can provide to me.

Resolution: No more chocolate

Permission: I will eat more vegetables, greens, fruits and foods that will help me nourish my body and will help me reach my health goals. If I have a craving for chocolate, I will allow it in my life in moderation

Resolution: I need to lose 40 pounds

Permission: I will gain more confidence, happiness, and strength


A Happy Balance

Discipline is needed for goal achievement, but only if it is done properly. The way you talk to yourself matters. Instead of drilling restrictions to follow, incorporate positive incentives. Set intentions for yourself to make an impact on our goals. Find a happy balance with your discipline and freedom. Give yourself permission to live. Listen to your body!


***Action Step:

Take your list of resolutions and rephrase them to add more to your life rather than making you feel as though you have to be punished by elimination.